Vineyard 2011 (part 1)

We got back today from Martha's Vineyard! We had a lovely time, as always. More pics than words, now; I'm tired (we caught an early ferry, luckily switched from the one this evening we were supposed to be on; no bad weather here yet, just some rain, but it wouldn't have been a fun day worrying about it, and I'm not sure how long they kept ferries running in any case).

We arrived there on Saturday afternoon. On Sunday morning we went to the Agricultural Society Fair. Sam climbed the climbing tower again, this time with more success:



We also saw a dog show, a frog jumping contest, and a women's skillet throw. It was awesome. Also hot.

On Monday morning early, our friend A, whom J. lived with through grad school, came for the day (she lives in Toronto, but was on Cape Cod with her partner, and took an early ferry over and a late ferry back so we had the whole day together). We went out for brunch and then to the Arboretum. It's very hard to get a photo of Sam in which he doesn't look goofy (he is exactly like Calvin of Calvin & Hobbes).





But then, at the sculpture garden nearby in West Tisbury, J. caught this shot (both kids were sitting on a tree branch):



Frida is easier to photograph; she's not nearly so self-conscious yet (even with the mosquito bite which she'd scratched to scabbing, now healing on her cheek):







The sculpture garden/art museum folks had put together a great treasure hunt, with line drawings of a lot of their sculptures and a few fake-outs. Sam loved it, and got them all right, winning a bumper sticker and a lapel pin.



Then we drove to Aquinnah, checked out the view from up on the cliffs, and spent a couple of hours down at the beach:











More soon...

party pics

We had Frida's 2nd birthday party yesterday. Her friend Evelyn's father has a nice camera and is good at using it. I'll write more later (this week is extra hectic, with an office move and a rush to finish syllabi before going on vacation), but here are some beautiful pics courtesy of Martin. (We borrowed Frida's cousin Ezra's birthday party idea of a small "ball pit", borrowing the balls from them and using our new inflatable kiddie pool. It was a huge hit. The first two pics include friends of Frida's from daycare, first Charlotte then Evelyn.)

two butts!

Last night, having dinner out on the porch. Frida pointed to the Met hippo (thanks, Nean! we are still loving it all these years later) on her melamine plate.
"E'fant!"
"Nope, Frida, that's a hippo."
"hu'po!"
"yup"
"hu'po butt!"
"Yup, that's the hippo's butt"
"two butts! hu'po butt, Feeda butt!" (pointing demonstratively at each) "two butts!"

She has been very into pointing out pairs of things recently. "Two doggies!" "Two Feedas!" (spying a photo of herself) "two mommies!" (pointing out a mom in a book whom she thinks resembles me, and pointing at me with her other hand). Etc. Until yesterday, when she spontaneously started labeling threes, she was a two fanatic. The standard account, in developmental psychology, is that kids progress through "knowing" the numbers one, two, and three-- that is, they label those quantities accurately and also do not use the numbers inaccurately to refer to greater quantities. So, Frida would be a 2-knower if she correctly called all pairs "two" but didn't call, say, three of anything "two". But a friend of mine, a developmental psychologist who studies number understanding, thinks that getting pairs is a different thing-- that kids go through a stage when they label pairs correctly as "two" but then, when asked (in F's case only when asked) how many some larger quantity, say 3 or 4 or 5 is, also answer "two" because, in addition to understanding pairs, it's the largest number they're confident about. Anyway... I think Frida is now, properly, a two-knower, in that big numbers are "fee!" and three is also "fee!" but two is only ever "two". But until a little while ago, she passed through this cool stage in which she loved to point out pairs, and only ever did so correctly... but still didn't get two's position between one and three.

Frida do'd it

This past week we've been nightweaning. "Frida, when do we nurse?" I will say. And she will answer either slightly mournfully, "nurse night-night time. nurse morning" (correct) or, mischievously, "nurse here!" as in, nurse right now, yes please thankyouverymuch! The first three or so nights went surprisingly well-- she'd wake and be reminded and cry for a heartfelt minute or two then roll over with a determined expression-- but then on Thursday she was sent home from daycare right after waking up from her nap, ca. 3:15, with a fever, and ran a fever all that afternoon/evening/night. She slept most of the evening, not having eaten anything, and then woke around 1:30AM clearly feeling better and hungry. After a snack and some awake time I nursed her to sleep around 2:30... and when she woke a few hours later feverish again, I figured what the heck and destroyed the previous few nights' work by nursing her in the middle of the night. Feh. Friday she couldn't go back to daycare despite being fever-free (24-hour rule), but then Friday night when she woke expecting to nurse and was denied, she screamed a lot. And that happened a couple of times. I was tired today. So was she.

This morning we brought Sam to taekwondo and then, because staying there watching with her is impossible (she wants to participate and tries to for the whole 45 minutes) we went out, as we did last week, for some breakfast. She didn't want any of my bagel and the unfamiliar cafe I'd thought to try didn't have scrambled egg sandwiches (boo!) so I got her a banana. As usual, she tried to open it herself. She tried many times and each time she considered letting me help but then changed her mind, until finally hunger got the better of her and she handed it to me, "Mommy did it?" So I cracked just a little of the peel open, leaving the rest for her to do. And then she changed her mind again, and proceeded to wail and shriek and throw her banana hard at the floor, all because it had been violated by my cracking the peel open, until I had to carry her out of the cafe. Outside she calmed down and at the taekwondo studio she calmly peeled her banana and ate most of it.

We did a bunch of other things (farmer's market, home for lunch, swimming at the local pool which we'd somehow not been to for the last two years-- Sam can swim! though he hasn't figured out how to breathe while swimming, so he does a passable head-down crawl until he gets halfway across the pool then stands up to catch his breath. And Frida kickedkickedkicked for nearly 45 minutes before being exhausted. Various other errands. Lots of negotiating with Sam about appropriate consequences for misbehaviors, as he seems unable to open his mouth without being rude or disrespectful this past week.) Then finally, putting Frida to bed and going through the events of the day with her, I asked, "Did we bring Sam to taekwondo?" "yah!" "And did we go and get a banana?" and her face fell and she said, mournfully, "Mommy do'd it. Frida do'd it. Mommy do'd it." (aka, some version of, Mommy opened it. Frida wanted to. But Mommy did it.) Sigh. Who knew helping one's child begin to peel a banana could have such lasting ramifications?

Here she is enjoying a tomato on our new outdoor furniture. We've been eating outdoors as often as possible now that we have somewhere comfortable to sit.



(She likes to take a couple of bites of a ripe tomato, suck as much of the juice out as she can, then discard it. So we give her small-ish ones. Tomatoes this time of year are so very good.)

summer kiddies

The kids on the front steps, on my birthday:

June

Well here we are halfway into July... but I'll do a quick reprise of June.

We went to Germany and to Switzerland in conjunction with a talk J. was invited to give in Geneva, visiting my aunt and uncle and two of my cousins (and their families). Sam and Frida met all 7 of their German second-cousins, saw castles, a cave, and two zoos, enjoyed train rides through Germany, and ate a lot of sausage and a lot of ice cream.

My aunt and uncle's house is well set up for young children, due to frequent grandchildren visits. We spent a couple of days there getting acclimated and seeing some local sights, and my aunt and uncle took excellent care of us:











We then took a train to Munich and visited the youngest of my three cousins. Sam and his cousin Lea, who's the same age, got along famously despite not knowing any words in each others' languages:









Meanwhile Frida and her cousin Hanna, who's two years older than she is, also hit it off:






Frida never fully adjusted to European time, and napped at odd times in odd places (often on benches while we were out for lunch)... and stayed up til midnight most nights. We didn't push it, figuring it'd just make things easier once we were back home.



She really enjoyed the zoos-- something we haven't done for years at home:



We took the train back to my aunt and uncle's home in southwestern Germany, and met the middle of my three German cousins there with his family. My uncle's model trains are much admired by his grandkids ansd now also by Sam:







After another couple of days, my uncle drove us to Zurich, where the oldest cousin lives with his family (and J. caught a train to Geneva). I didn't take many pics til the last day there, when J. joined us again for a day of sightseeing before we caught a plane back home:





And then... we saw Grandma and Grandpa for a couple days (they were here for Uncle D's residency graduation); J. and I celebrated our anniversary; Sam had his last week of kindergarten; we all got sick at various overlapping times; we spent a nice weekend in New Hampshire with friends (though J. spent most of it coughing and headachy); Frida settled back into daycare; Sam lounged around for a week then started camp; I got a year older; and two days ago I finally stopped feeling sick every evening after three weeks of blah. Apparently being in my late 30s includes taking longer to kick viruses out of my body. Let's hope not.

Two days before camp started, we scheduled a playdate with a former preschool classmate of Sam's, who'd be in his group at camp, but whom he hadn't seen much over the past two years since starting kindergarten (his friend goes to another school). J. and Sam met Eli and Eli's mom for ice cream, and then J. drove them all back to Eli's house where Sam stayed for a while playing. On the way over, Eli's mom asked Sam what he'd like to play with there (Sam has had quite a few playdates over there, it's just been a while). "Whatever Eli wants to do," Sam said, gallantly, then explained, "That way we both get something good. I get to have a playdate, and Eli gets to choose what he wants. It's kind of like a relationship. Actually, it's like a symbiotic relationship." Yep, that pretty much captures it.

Sam's camp involves an 8AM bus pickup on campus, where he's dropped back off again after 5, totally exhausted, tanned despite a thorough application of sunscreen every morning, and happy. Frida and I pick him up every day-- I leave work early and pick her up first, because he's too tired to do much of anything by the time I get him-- and she has been really intrigued by his school bus. "Dadah go Vam bus?" she asked, one day. "No, sweetie," I said, "The bus is for big kids." She thought for a moment. "Dadah go beebee bus? (baby bus)" she asked, hopefully. (Frida loves buses, and our bus rides are always highlights for her. But she hasn't gotten a trip in a big yellow bus ever. One day soon enough...)

May

On Mother's Day we went out for a fancy brunch at the restaurant around the corner from our house, then for a walk at the lovely huge landscaped Mt Auburn Cemetary, joined by our beloved upstairs neighbor Paula. Frida, who'd lasted surprisingly well through most of brunch, was as usual adamant about wanting to "wot" (walk).





Fast forward a few cool rainy weeks to this past Friday, which was in the high 80s suddenly. The pansies which have been gracing our back porch window boxes have thrived in all the cool rain; their days are numbered.



Between college kids leaving (and graduating!) and our other regular afterschool babysitter starting a new degree program which leaves her less flexible, we didn't have an afterschool babysitter for Sam on Friday. So I took him to run some errands, get frozen yogurt, and get his hair cut, finally; with it plastered to his face and neck he was well ready to part with the length. I couldn't really describe to the woman cutting it what I wanted, though, so he ended up with a mullet... which I trimmed up on the back porch once we picked up Frida and came home. And then trimmed just the wee bits of extra-long hair on the back of her head as well. Sam takes after Omi and me in having a LOT of hair-- this was after he'd already had a fair bit taken off at the barber shop:



Frida these days is chatty and funny and affectionate and opinionated. If she's awake when Sam comes into our bed in the mornings, or whenever she wakes up thereafter, she insists, "Vam! haut!" (Sam! hug!). She is very very particular about who does what, and insists on who does her carseat buckle (herself, the top clip, and usually "Vam", the bottom clip-- if he's there, that is). She wants to climb into the car and into her seat herself, and on the occasions when we're in too much of a hurry to permit this and she is plopped unceremoniously into her seat and buckled in, she yells for a bit and then grumbles for the entire ride across Cambridge (Hrumph. Meh. Wah, at regular intervals from the backseat, prompting Sam to request that the music be turned up). She wants to do everything herself except the things she's bored of doing herself, like putting food into her mouth. This, she requests of specific other people (me, Opa, Paula, Grandma-- not necessarily someone seated conveniently close to her, either). She has a particular cackle that she emits when she's being naughty, but she is also learning and repeating rules. For example, I had told her very firmly that she can't nurse if she's going to press her feet on my face, inside my shirt, or against my arm, so while nursing she will stop nursing for a moment at random intervals to intone, "Doot, dais, no. Doot, dirt, no. Doot, arm, no," waiting for confirmation from me before she smiles and returns to nursing. And though I'm never more than a step away from her on the sidewalk, she stops at the crossing, says "deet!" and reaches for a hand before stepping into the street. Progress!




And the new-haircut pic you've been waiting for, featuring a lego shark (Sam follows in his father's and uncle M's footsteps with the lego love. When he got a new lego set from Grandma and Grandpa recently, he looked at the picture on the box then immediately asked if he had to make what was in the picture or could use them to make other things).



J got back this afternoon from the last of his spring travels, hurrah! We leave in just over a week, for 12 days in Germany and Switzerland; J's giving a talk and we grabbed the chance to visit my cousins and aunt/uncle for the price of two tickets (Frida is lap-baby-able for just a bit longer, and light enough that that seemed feasible). Looking forward to meeting the 5 new cousins who've been born in the 7 years since I was there last.

And in the unlikely event that someone reading here doesn't know from FB or more direct channels, I got and accepted the job offer, so will have a full-time teaching position next year and likely the following; after that it's open again. I will have to convince them in those years that I am indispensable (-: And I'll have four months next summer free for research, science outreach, house stuff, and/or hanging with the kids-- combination of those things. Whee!